Kitchen Conversations. Women’s Edition

2025

Installation with an activation through the participatory performance

30 kitchen knives engraved with stereotypical phrases that women hear—expressions rooted in sexist assumptions and embedded in everyday language, red apples.

The work is based on research and surveys through which over 80 phrases were collected. From these, 30 were selected through online voting and engraved onto kitchen knives. (scroll down for the list)

During the participatory performance, women were invited to choose a knife carrying a phrase that trigger or affect them most deeply and to activate it by cutting a red apple. This gesture opened a space for sharing personal reflections, memories, and experiences. The project unfolds as a collective process in which speaking and listening become part of a simple performative structure.

This participatory format is open-ended and intended to be repeated.

To take part in the future iterations or to contribute to the ongoing collection of phrases, you can fill out the online form at the bottom of this page.

Gratitude to all the participants who chose to share their stories.

The first selection of phrases engraved on the knives:

The following phrases were selected through online voting and engraved onto kitchen knives for the first edition of the installation

“You should smile more.” · “Don’t laugh so loud.” · “Women’s football is just less interesting to watch than men’s football.” · “You are not like other girls.” · “Bitch.” · “Don’t swear, you’re a girl.” · “So you study art? Does your boyfriend have a good-paying job?” · “Do you know any female artists happy in marriage?” · “Your mom probably wants grandchildren already.” · “You look tired.” · “You are bossy.” · “Girls are not leaders.” · “You are too emotional.” · “Girls just don’t think that fast. Especially in math.” · “All women should not miss a chance to become mothers.” · “You should wear something more attractive.” · “Women’s logic is so irregular.” · “Women are naturally caregivers.” · “Women know better how to juggle house chores.” · “Oh, how will you manage alone?” · “You just need to find the right guy.” · “Female role.” · “It is not very ladylike.” · “It is a woman’s job to do.” · “My ex is crazy.” · “You’re overreacting.” · “Calm down.” · “You don’t look feminine.” · “Are you PMSing?”

The rest of the open and growing research archive:

“Women age worse than men.” · “Women are the weaker sex.” · “Doesn’t your mom want a son-in-law?” · “Your biological clock is ticking.” · “Oh, you’re probably having those days.” · “Take care of your image.” · “Watch your weight.” · “Women are the keepers of the home.” · “Family well-being is a woman’s cross to bear.” · “Women’s commitments.” · “Women are fragile, but they become strong when they become mothers.” · “Male dominance is natural.” · “She’s asking for it dressed like that.” · “If she is a divorcée, it must be her fault.” · “Women are manipulative by nature.” · “The female body is so mysterious.” · “Only a demon can bleed every month and not die.”

The archive continues to expand through contributions from participants:

“Women are the jewel of the team!” (in a team composed of 99% women) · “Women are muses.” · “You must be on your period.” · “No wonder you are single; you are so intense.” · “That’s why women shouldn’t be in charge—they are too emotional.” · “You don’t want sex? You must be a prude. You want sex? You are too easy.” · “You should play hard to get; men like it that way.” · “A woman’s value is in her purity.” · “Bitch is a term invented by men to describe a woman who dares to be assertive, ambitious, or unwilling to cater to their expectations.” · “You are too emotional.” · “Oh, of course you paint—you are a girl.” · “You should be more fun; stop listening to sad music.” · “Don’t you want to have kids? What will you do otherwise?” · “When was the last time you had sex? You’re overreacting!” · “Here’s another story about my crazy mother-in-law.” · “She was asking for it.” · “Let me explain it to you (on a level even a child can understand).” · “Men are logical; women are intuitive.” · “Men rule the world; women rule the home.” · “Men quarrel; women have catfights.” · “Women are so easily jealous of each other.” · “She’s too old.” · “She’s had too much Botox.” · “Beautiful women make excellent muses.” · “That’s typically female logic!” · “Did you ever consider wearing a skirt?” · “Isn’t it rare for women to do your profession?” · “Let me explain how this works…” · “Where is the supervisor? Can I speak to him?” · “Menopausal women are difficult.” · “You’re not a mother; you wouldn’t understand.” · “You are exaggerating.” · “Women can’t make art / you were selected because you’re female.” · “You are too present.” · “You are too intelligent for a woman.” · “You are too rational for a woman.” · “She has a jaw/shoulders like a man.” · “A woman has to have a long neck.” · “Let’s be honest, Ukrainian women are always well-groomed.” · “A man is the head, a woman is the neck.” · “The husband earns money—the wife spends it.”